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Archive for May, 2016


“I never want to be like my parents!” I hear that so often, hell I said it myself.  But, I was so wrong! I am proud to say I am very much like my Mother AND my father in many ways. This popes into my wondering thoughts this morning as I sat and meditated.

I was thinking about the difference between today’s parents and the way they discipline children and the way my mother and father did, and then I did when it was my turn.

People today would SO think my mom and dad was being abusive if they heard them say; “If you don’t stop I am going to sell you to the gypsies!” We 5 children knew very well neither parent really meant they were going to sell us, or even give us away.

Both parents showed us love every day. Not the cuddle you, tell us they loved us every other minute they loved us, and let you run free and do whatever you wanted. But, they made sure we were fed, taught us right from wrong, went to bat for us if they thought we were being hurt or being treated unfairly even if it was one of our own siblings.

I admit my mother was mostly the one going to bat for us because she was the one who did most of the discipline.

However, they both taught us hard work and to face up to anything we did wrong no matter how small it might be and to make it right.  Our father and mother taught us our word was our bond if you promised something or shook on a deal you damn sure was going to keep your word cause your name meant something, not only to you but the rest of your family and ancestors who came before you.

They also were gentle with us when we were hurt. But spoke very bluntly. They afraid to treat each of their kids different than another of their kids, cause they knew no two person is exactly alike and that goes for children. Some need more freedom, others need more guidance.  Some need a tighter grip and harder discipline, others just need a look and three words said: “I’m so disappointed”.

I laugh cause I have reacted to my grand daughter and even my cats as my parents did with us, and in return I found myself reacting to my daughter as she was growing up, and have had my wife who is 12 years younger than me and from a totally different area react in shock.

It isn’t anything for me to respond with; “stop being a little shithead” or “You are being an ass hole right now”.  We were taught, I taught my daughter and I hope my daughter teaches her daughter, ” I love you but don’t love your actions right now!” Or “I love you but not really liking you right now”

Because it is ok to teach your kids it is possible to love someone but not to love their actions or even like them, but it doesn’t mean you are going to stop loving them or even stop ever liking them, just while they are doing the assolish actions, or as young children so they can separation between you loving them and not liking their actions. That they are not bad, their action is bad.

Thinking over all this, I have to really say thank you to my parents! Because if it weren’t for them, and for the life I lead on the farm. I
really think I be I’ll equipped  to handle the chronic illness that has struck, the constant pain that racks my body.  Because of them I know how to fight this evil that attacks me and never give into it. But even more, thanks to them I have a great relationship with my own daughter.

Thanks, mom and dad for being the parents you were!




Making Magic In Your Kitchen:

Making Magic In the Kitchen has a lot of connotations but for today, we are going to talk about the way my family passed traditions down for years.  My father’s side and Mother’s side both practiced Kitchen Witchery.  So what exactly is Kitchen Witchery? It is a spiritual practice where you connect with Earth and Natual side of nature bring it into your home via your Kitchen.

I remember my great – grandmother harvesting herbs of all kind, even wildflowers to make teas, adding them to her foods, and making medical salves. This tradition was taught and passed down to my grandmother, my mother, then my siblings and myself. Some of us practiced the art of herblism which is part of Kitchen Witchery and some of us didn’t practice Kitchen Witchery at all. Just like any family and their traditions/faith beliefs, people find their own paths.  I myself studied the art of herblism through my family teachings and a few college classes, plus followed my families teachings/faith, but that isn’t to say I didn’t have times of non-practicing of this path.

Just like any family and their traditions/faith beliefs, people find their own paths.  I myself studied the art of botany through my family teachings and a few college classes, plus followed my families teachings/faith, but that isn’t to say I didn’t have times of non-practicing of this path.


However, I am always drawn back to this path because I truly believe that plants were put here for us to use in many different ways, as long as we educate ourselves on what their benefits are and what parts are good for us.

As for the actual practice of Kitchen Witchery, will the Kitchen is where the heart and hearth of many homes?  Isn’t that where your nutrition comes from? With the feeling economy and for those who like to cook the kitchen is where we spend a large portion of the day morning and evening.  You have time to bring your family together and bring love, closeness, and even prosperity back into your family by spending time around the food you make.

Now when I say prosperity, I am not saying prosperity as in money, but who knows that might be something you are able to bring back into your home too once everyone starts talking and you’re cooking from scratch instead of dumping things from a can and eating from bags of quick eat junk.  But, I am talking the prosperity of family closeness, of being able to talk together again.  This country has lost so much of what “yester-year” use to have when kids had to be home before the street lights came on, families ate around the table at least once a day and actually talked about their days.

When someone takes the time to put meals together from the basic ingredients, they have a magical opportunity at hand. They can infuse every dish with intent and will, not to mention love. A meal can stop being something you out of a can, and start being a ritual in and of itself. When you take the time to prepare something with your own hands, that lends its sacredness, and will make you want to spend time savoring it with your family. Rather than just snarfing it down on your way out the door, or grabbing fast food and eating it around a tv watching reality tv shows about another family’s drama filled life.

With all this amazing taking time to learn information such as; Tea Tree Oil is a great antiseptic on cuts, Garlic is nature’s Antibiotic, Cinnamon helps with Diabetic insulin issues, Coconut oil can be made into a teeth whitener, Cinnamon/honey/ and garlic can be made into a cough syrup – cold remedy. So many other natural remedies. And they can be included in your everyday cooking too, such as including cinnamon in your baking, garlic in your cooking etc.  Add Intent, will, and love by wishing good health and happiness as you cook for those you cook for, including yourself.


Some wild plants can also be used in Kitchen Witchery, however, this is where extreme caution must be used. Like any medical usage you need to know how to use them and what parts to use, before attempting to do so, such as; if you’re having liver issues those weeds, dandelions, in your yard when harvested early in the season, cleaned well and prepared correctly can be used in detoxing your system and liver.   But, they should be used with caution, because dandelions are a diuretic with potassium and other vitamins but shouldn’t be used with some medicine your doctor is giving you.

I have always found this type of “magic” so interesting because medical doctors every day practice it but don’t let anyone in mainstream America know. After all, many of the modern medicines, (e.g., aspirin, Morphium, Tamoxifen, Vin­cris­tin, etc.) we are prescribed by our doctors either were derived or have herbs in them along with the synthetic crap.

Doctors and phymacitical companies will tell you in articles that the reason they can’t just extract the benefits from the herb, wild plant and make the medicine in a natural manner. is that herbal medicines tend to have not one but a multitude of pharmacologically active ingredients. Thus extracting only one ingredient might reduce the pharmacological activity of the whole plant extract. There is no way to extract just the pharmacological active ingredient they need.  In other words, if they use such as dandlions they would have to give you a caution that it is a diuretic, that it covers liver, it is anti – inflamtory, that it is a detoxing drug, and all the other things it can do, plus if their is any side effcts if you use it with any other drug or to often.  UMMM don’t they do that already with all the synthic drugs they put out already? Take this and this may happen, you may have worse side effects then the issue you already have.

I think I will stick with my home remedies where I can, don’t get me wrong, I don’t go with out modern medicine all together. But, when I can, I would rather connect with the Earth as the Great Being intended and use home remedies, use spices and herbs in my cooking, or as my grand-mother put it, I continue adding a pinch of love to and care to everything I cook.

ever mindful

Blessings one and all,

Trinton TrinityHawk

Your Dreams Who Owes You?

As I have said many times my mother is/was my number one mentor in life. She pushed me through school. Not only High School but College as well.  When I graduated from High School I gave her my graduation hat and told her it was as much hers as mine.  She was a single parent and even when she was working two jobs to feed us and pay the bills she pushed me to keep going even when I felt low and helped me to study every day.

She taught me to reach for the golden ring if I missed the first or second time around than just try harder and reach further out the next time.

Yeah, sometimes you might fall off that carousel horse while reaching for the golden ring, but then you get right back up, dust yourself off and go again until you capture the ring!

Because we all have to work for what we want. If we have kids, than we as adults/parents signed a contract with those children and with the higher power to help and guide them to capture the golden ring without falling off and getting hurt, as best as we are able, until they are out of college then help via support and love for the rest of our lives.

No one can give a person their dreams. Perhaps someone can help reach out and grab that golden ring if we are willing to ask for their help.  But they can not do the work alone. No one can just hand that golden ring over to another person, not your parents, not a spouse, not even our higher power.

Sure there are those who inherit riches, like Donald Trump.  However, even those who have inherited  lots of money has to work to keep that money. If they want to remain rich, then they have to do the work to remain so, to earn more money to replace the money they spend or to invest smartly so that they do not end up bankrupt.

However, if we allow it anyone can take our self-worth, and our dreams from us through their actions and their words.

Don’t let them!


Modern Day Mother’s Day Wishes:

I wish everyone a Happy Modern Mother’s Day. What do I mean by this? Will there are so many other types of mother’s than female gendered mother’s who are married and give birth to their children.  There are those who are single parents, gay fathers who are in the mothers role, divorced father’s who play both roles, as well as, the traditional mothers. All these mothers made up what a modern day Mother’s Day looks like in the 21st-century world.

I do have friends who are upset with this way of thinking, they feel mothers are getting the short end of the stick. Because they say Mothers have their days and Fathers have their day that they shouldn’t be blending the days.  However, just like Mother’s Day, there are also female gendered “fathers” on Father’s Day that should be wished a Happy Father’s Day, as well.  So, it isn’t just a one-way street.

Anyone who does the mother’s duties should be granted the rights to be wished a Happy Mother’s Day.   I was a single father for my daughter from the time she was 6 yrs old and she has been wishing me a Happy Mother’s day since she was 7.

So to all the mothers, motherly fathers, adopted mothers, and furbaby mothers I hope you have a very happy Mother’s Day.


America The Hunger Games

I generally don’t post about politics on my blog, at least not that often.  Sometimes something drives me to post my opinion or a thought that strikes me needing to be said. Will this post is the latter, as I read article after article and watch the news about Donald Dump, the real estate mogul and reality television star, getting closer and closer to winning the Republican primary it strikes me as odd that someone who has no governmental experience what so ever. As so many have said; Being a businessman and reality tv show star does not make a president to a country. So how can he win so many votes?

This truly does confound me.  I am at a loss every time Donald Dump wins another primary race in another state I just set confounded and wonder is this country really lost its’ way so much that they can’t see that he is pulling the wool over their eyes, that the media has brainwashed them with reality television shows so much that our world has become its’ own version of the hunger games.  The candidate who can get the most attention can do the craziest antics get the most votes.  Not the candidate who has the best experience, the best policies or has the American people  in mind by running.   If you have the best propaganda then you have the media in your pocket and with propaganda and media you win the hunger games, the prize? Presidency!



Check out this review of Tortured Souls: The House On Wellfleet Bluffs

Book review of “Tortured Souls: Tortured Souls: The House on Wellfleet Bluffs”

I was given “Tortured Souls: The House on Wellfleet Bluffs” for an honest review. I honestly was drawn into this story until I felt I was there with Lynne, Jason and the rest of the Wellfleet neighborhood.

I felt their pain, joy, and was on edge waiting for what was going to happen next. 

I was so drawn in that at he end I was caught off guard and found myself weeping along side the characters.

If you like thriller books that are full suspension that will keep you drawn in and on the edge of your seat, then ” Tortured Souls: The House on Wellfleet Bluffs” is the book for you!

My goodreads post: http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/1624574743

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