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A New Mindset


I have been working on losing weight for the past couple of years and as you do when you’re working on losing weight it goes UP and then down.  You fluctuate all over the place you get discouraged and you give up, then you get back to it for what ever reason. My reason is that I need to beat Diabetes and need to get healthy. At the age of 50 and have many different ailments I don’t want to be laid up to early because I have two young daughters, two beautiful grand-daughters, and another grandbaby on the way.  I can not be laid up and unable to be there for them.

She transformed her mind and then her body! Haley Otman

“I used to live for the next meal. Like…literally eating lunch I was thinking about what I would eat for dinner. I have learned to enjoy NEW things about food. I’ve learned to love cooking and am finding new ways every day to make low sugar/carb meals that taste great but don’t keep me from my goals.”

FIRST – I want to say I believe that going all the way to a size two is too small unless you feel this is the size you are comfortable being and you are healthy. I know some people who are size 2 both because of medical issues and because that is just the size they have always been. But, if that is the size you are aiming for because you think that is the size you should be due to peer pressure or “public notions” – nope – be what ever size you feel healthy and comfortable at.

Now that I put that out there, I do agree with what is said in the article and the quote above. Shifting one’s mindset about food and eating in a different way is how to lose weight and keeping it off, not “dieting”.  Remember everyone is different, I am learning about myself, with my nutritionist, I am one who literally doesn’t eat enough. Yes, I know that phrase “doesn’t eat enough” seems contrary to trying to lose weight, I thought so too.

BUT, I forget to eat, I avoid food cause I just have no interest in it, which causes my body to shut down, my metabolism to shut down and start saving the fat for “that rainy day”.

I like to cook, I love to bake but unless I have someone to cook/bake for I could do with out except late at night sitting working on the computer or watching tv then I snack generally on unhealthy food, except I am learning to change this habit, and it is a habit.  When you are changing your mindset you are breaking a habit or working through an addiction.  Some people are literally addicted to food or some foods.  I am addicted to Dr. Pepper, not just any soda but Dr. Pepper and coffee.  So, I have to break these addictions and learn how to live with these addictions but control them. I don’t mean they are like someone who is an alcoholic because I can have a Dr. Pepper and not want another and another etc.  BUT, If I have a Dr. Pepper seems in my mind to say no to more Dr. Pepper day after day.  I just tell myself, oh I just have one a day, or this one won’t hurt me because it is just ONE. Or I even have one when no one is around and not report it on my food log.  These actions are the actions of someone who is addicted.  So, I take it one day at a time

I am addicted to Dr. Pepper, not just any soda but Dr. Pepper and coffee.  So, I have to break these addictions and learn how to live with these addictions but control them. I don’t mean they are like someone who is an alcoholic because I can have a Dr. Pepper and not want another and another etc.  BUT, If I have a Dr. Pepper seems in my mind to say no to more Dr. Pepper day after day.  I just tell myself, oh I just have one a day, or this one won’t hurt me because it is just ONE. Or I even have one when no one is around and not report it on my food log.  These actions are the actions of someone who is addicted.  So, I take it one day at a time and do my best to avoid Dr. Pepper.

I also have a body dysphoria issue, no matter how skinny or bulked up I ever got or will get I will see myself as fat, which partly causes this lack of interest in food but it is other issues too, which I am worked on. These issues keep me from noticing any changes with my body and within myself, this builds discouragement within me. When I am discouraged I tend to return to my “I am not interested in food and hate my body” mode. It is a horrible circle, however, if one works on their mindset towards food and eating differently and on breaking those old habits and addictions they have with and towards food, then being discouraged isn’t apart of the whole thing cause you aren’t in it to actually “look different or lose weight”, you are in it to learn about the way you eat, to learn about healthy foods and what to eat, what makes you healthy.

The losing weight is a side benefit and it also helps you be healthy mentally, physically and emotionally.

Healthy Doesn’t Mean A Tasteless Life.


I am proof that someone who is limited in what they are able to do physically is still able to lose weight and live a healthy life!  I was down to 174 nine years ago. Then I stopped eating healthy and stopped doing the one thing that kept me healthy besides eating healthy, WALKING.

I went from 300 down to 174 by eating healthy and walking.  I don’t mean strolling around my apartment or around a block every so often, but walking everywhere I went and climbing stairs instead of taking elevators, (of course I had to build up to this).

But, then I stopped! I stopped eating healthy, I stopped walking everywhere and taking stairs. I stopped everything healthy.  Lots of this was due to grief, but there were other reasons.  No matter the reason I went back up to 258 and my chronic pain got worse, my depression and anxiety grew again, the weakness in my muscles grew even worse, so many of my illness and disabilities came back and in force.

I have now set a goal to get back to eating healthy and get back into stretching, doing light exercises that my Physical Therapist or Doctor have approved). I am also going to get back to walking further and further and then hopefully without be able to do away with my walker so I can start taking stairs again.  Weight goal is to go from 258 down to 174 again. I want to be in my 38 jeans if I make it to my 38 jeans before I hit 174, I will be happy with the weight I become as long as it is below 200.

I have a weight goal to go from 258 down to 174 again. I want to be in my 38 jeans if I make it to my 38 jeans before I hit 174, I will be happy with the weight I become as long as it is below 200.

The weight you should be is always figured based on your BMI. BMI is your weight over your height squared. For instance, my BMI is; 241 over 5’1 equals 45.5 which is obese.

BMI
Underweight
Below 18.5
Normal
18.5–24.9
Overweight
25.0–29.9
Obesity
30.0 and Above

There are many different risks for being unhealthy even if you are not over-weight.

Risk Factors

  • High blood pressure (hypertension)
  • High LDL cholesterol (“bad” cholesterol)
  • Low HDL cholesterol (“good” cholesterol)
  • High triglycerides
  • High blood glucose (sugar)
  • Family history of premature heart disease
  • Physical inactivity
  • Cigarette smoking

My mom is an example of this; she was a very active woman who only weighed about 125 or less and was 5′ all her life. However, she wasn’t healthy, because she had bad unhealthy habits. She smoked, she had a lot of stress in her life, and she got older she didn’t eat the healthiest.  Because of unhealthy habits, not BMI or weight, she had heart disease, high cholesterol, and died of Cancer.

It doesn’t matter what your weight is or who you are if you don’t have healthy habits you are going to have an unhealthy life, body, and mind.   I am going to work towards getting my life, body, and mind back into sync so life isn’t tasteless anymore, that I have a very healthy life, which leads to a much more balanced life.

I will keep track of this journey here.  I have already lost to 241/245 I weight at my doctors tomorrow to be sure and will do my body measurements soon.  I will start doing a food diary as well as post recipes of the food I eat.  Remember, Healthy Doesn’t Mean A Tasteless Life. This means food can be spiced with herbs instead of salt, which causes you to retain water or sugar, which causes you to gain weight.  When you start eating with food that is tasty and not loaded down with salt and sugar your life because less tasteless because your body reacts to this change, your health gets better, your pain levels lessen, and then your mind becomes less tasteless because it stops reacting to the negative input that  your body kept pounding your mind with.

Here to a less tasteless life!

 

Blessings for now,

TrinityHawk

 

Faith = Lifestyle Not A Religion


With all the mass shootings over the past few days, which have happen in Paris, Beirut, Oregon college, and other places, I thought I would post about Faith and rules by which I live my life, and why.

I post daily on my FB feed a small something about my thoughts, about politics, religion, humanity, etc.  I am a very blunt person and do not feel holding back will prove anything or teach anything to the next person reading or listening to what I have to say.   I have always believed I was put here on this Earth, and gone through what I have been put through from a very young age so that I may teach others.  Now if others listen that is up to them.  If others believe the same as me, again that is up to them.

As much as some may believe, I am not “preaching”.  Even though I am an Ordain Minister, study religions, and practicing Buddhist.  I do not believe in INSISTING my beliefs be everyone’s beliefs.  But, as said before, I do believe in being blunt about my thoughts and educating others on what I have learned over the years.  In this way I educate.

The title of this blog is: Faith = Not A Religion.  Now I do believe their are MANY religions on this Earth and they have their place.  They give the people who follow each one a ritual, a way to focus their faith.  I do not believe that their is only ONE face of the creator.  (again this is MY belief, I am not requesting or saying it needs to be yours).   However, FAITH – faith has really very little to do with RELIGION.

Once their is clear understand of the meaning of the two words religion and faith, understanding the difference between them is not that hard. Both words are often confused because it is thought that there is a interchangeable in their meanings. Strictly speaking, both the words are different in terms of their concepts and connotations. They may not have some similarity in their meaning, but religion and faith are very much have a reciprocal relationship in the field of religion. In the world of religion, without faith, you cannot be a follower of any religion. Even to be an atheist, you need to have faith in not believing in God. Now I know some Atheist who would disagree with that statement. Will I explain my reasoning behind this statement later on in this article.

Faith, is often spoken of coming from our heart/soul. When we use it normally, is used to mean a sense of trust.  Faith is generally is a complete confidence or trust in something/someone. Faith is not based on proof. This is why I say Atheist have faith, for they have complete confidence and/or trust in the fact that their is no God with out proof.

Faith shows how much one trust someone or something, not necessarily a God but perhaps a belief or someone or something you need to rely on.  Faith with in religion – not as the religion:  faith consists of the belief in one or more gods or deities, or none at all. However, this always does not have to be the belief in deities and gods as all religions do not believe in the god concept, but follow teachings taught by teachers and mentors instead. So, faith in this case is the faith in the teachings of someone and the lessons of life.  Faith is usually accompanied by hope because when we use the word faith to show that we trust someone, we are hoping that our trust is placed correctly. If we study how faith is built, we can see that faith is built on the belief. When faith becomes strong and unshakable, we become strong within ourselves which can be called awaking into our belief or some ball it being called to our religious choice.

Religion is not Faith,  so what is it? Religion is based on cultures and the rules they have created over time which they have named beliefs. At the same time, religion influences the culture too. Religion builds character and morality.

Religious leaders at one time were the Kings and Queens advisers, they helped draw up the rules which governed the people. Today religious leaders impart primary knowledge about the respective dogmas and tenets, which governor the people who follow different religions.  They try to build faith in the corresponding religion in the minds of the people. Thus, religion and faith are related to each other although they are different from each other.

Below is my way of life that guides my faith:  I do not think of these rules as my religion because I do not have a “religion” I practice Buddhism as in I try and live a lifestyle guided by the teachings of Buddha and Buddha says their is no almighty God.  This I do not believe (this is not my faith. What I trust within my heart/soul).  However, I do believe that the rules we live our life by, that guides our faith, are also what should be what guides our daily lifestyle and with this in mind – these are mine:


The greatest achievement is selflessness.
The greatest worth is self-mastery.
The greatest quality is seeking to serve others.
The greatest precept is continual awareness.
The greatest medicine is the emptiness of everything.
The greatest action is not conforming with the worlds ways.
The greatest magic is transmuting the passions.
The greatest generosity is non-attachment.
The greatest goodness is a peaceful mind.
The greatest patience is humility.
The greatest effort is not concerned with results.
The greatest meditation is a mind that lets go.
The greatest wisdom is seeing through appearances.
– Atisha of the Buddhist faith and teachings


Back to the horrible actions around the world, religion has been said to be the center of all this.  So, perhaps FAITH is the end to it all?  All who have Faith in something good has the ability to bring Humanity back into line of peace and goodness.

I have yet to master any of the above rules I try to follow on a daily basis, that I pray (to my Creator and Earth Mother) for the strength to continue my lessons they have for me, To my teacher Buddha (who is not a God but a Teacher) to keep teaching me, and give me strength in my faith to hold strong in each of these life rules to be able to live a lifestyle that honors each of these life rules every day.

Since I started learning and following Buddhism I have thought the above rules should be the commandments on how to live life –

The greatest achievement is selflessness. – To think of others perhaps not always before thy self but perhaps as you are thinking of yourself. If you are going to do something. Think of how it will effect others before doing it. If you are going to the kitchen and live with someone ask “would this person also like something from the kitchen?” If you are at the store perhaps look at the products and think of others in need before thinking of your wants.

To master The greatest achievement is selflessness, and thinking of others leads to The greatest worth is self-mastery.  With self-mastery, one learns to control one urges, addictions, actions, etc.  To master oneself isn’t the ability to master one’s life but it does help.  It makes one’s life much more clear, much happier.  Yet Buddha teaches you can not have good with out the bad, happiness with out sadness.  So, even though self-mastery can make your life a happier life, it does not mean a life with out bad or sadness.

The greatest achievement is selflessness and The greatest worth is self-mastery leads to: The greatest quality is seeking to serve others,   which leads to continual awareness, etc.   As it is taught one rule mastered  leads to the next rule, and the next rule should become easier to master. This of course is not always true, their are stumbling blocks in life at every level in life, we may fall off those steps and need to start re-climbing.

But – imagine if just the majority of people followed their faith/ their code of ethics/life rules – be they these ones or others which they hold as dear as commandments, imagine how much better humanity would be all over the world.  Yes we still have sadness, bad times, and lessons to learn, but with faith and a sit of rules which makes life easier to life by, to each other, as well as, ourselves with kindness and peace those hard times will be less harsh and we would be able to learn our life lessons with less effort and more awareness.

I send blessings to each person and pray for peace among humanity.

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